Dealing with backstabbers at work
No matter what you do, there will always be people who would do anything to put you down. They will always look for your negative side. Backstabbers find satisfaction in spreading rumors about you and are only concerned with themselves and gaining power. In every company, there is always an individual who enjoys torturing you. This is probably because they do not like your personality or they’re insecure. People who backstab other workers are those who want all the attention on them and find you as a competition. The best way to deal with these kinds of individuals is to relax and do not let the things they say about you, affect you emotionally. Below are other ways in coping up with backstabbers.
- Keep calm
When you find out that someone is saying things behind your back do not confront them and pick a fight. The best way to handle this is to stay calm and do not let it affect your mood and the way you see yourself.
2. Prove them wrong
If you hear that a co-worker says you are always lazy, prove him wrong. Go to work on time and even earlier than him. Be a better employee and do the tasks assigned to you.
3. Establish a good relationship with other employees and the boss
It is good that you act nice around other employees so that you’ll gain sympathy from them and being close to the boss will prevent the backstabber from saying negative things about you.
4. Do not do the same
You should not start spreading rumors about the backstabber because it will not do you any good. It is better to keep silent and try to find out what he’s been saying about you.
5. Approach the backstabber
It is also advisable that you come up to the backstabber. Be confident when you ask questions but make sure to show the positive intent of your approach.
6. Think of a plan
If the backstabber gets to succeed in his plan, you can choose to leave and look for another company. Tell your boss and the other employees that you will be trying different opportunities that will suit your personality.
It is very hard to work with people who always see the bad side of you. No matter how hard you try to prove them wrong, they will not stop putting you down. Backstabbers should not be the reason for you to give up but instead it should motivate you to keep going and continue being a better person.